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img_7830This past Sunday one of our dogs, Kenyon, appeared to be fine. On Monday he was throwing up mucus and pieces of grass. This type of throwing up is not unusual for either of our dogs. They eat grass when they are having digestive problems, like constipation. His vomiting continued intermittently throughout the day. I went to dance practice Monday night. On Tuesday morning my husband left me a note telling me that Kenyon hadn’t eaten Monday night nor Tuesday morning. He informed me that the dog had ingested part of Continue Reading…

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As most of you may know, we are almost finished with the latest new six-episode installment of the show ‘The X-Files’. For the uninitiated, ‘The X-Files’ is about a fringe group of the FBI that is tasked with investigating alien abductions and beings as well as other unusual phenomenon. The two agents, Fox Mulder and Dana Scully, over time, believe that there is a larger government conspiracy to cover up the aliens, the abductions Continue Reading…

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For as long as I can remember, throwing myself into a new and challenging activity has helped me cope with anxiety and grief. It has been a lifelong desire of mine to really learn how to dance. My husband gave me six ballroom dance classes as a gift more than four years ago and last March I finally signed up.

So, for the past 10 months I have had to focus on being in my body and moving it in very different ways. I have had to overcome my physical space bubble, touch and be touched by strangers in a way that didn’t involve IVs, blood sticks, surgery or other physical assaults. I have had to learn to be SEXY (still Continue Reading…

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The last tumor, a leiomyosarcoma, was removed from my daughter through a liver and gall bladder resection in July of 2014. I am happy to report that she is well. Something, if not multiple things are scanned every three months. When she says she’s tired, I worry. When she doesn’t feel good, I worry. I’m always worried. I am so grateful she is still here.

At the time of my daughter’s last cancer diagnosis, I was recovering from a broken leg and still had contractors working in my house repairing the extensive damage caused by a broken water line to the icemaker behind the refrigerator. I am happy to report that my leg has healed completely. The contractors are gone. Now anything that normally happens in a home – a burnt out light bulb, a faucet leaking, even a dead plant causes stress and triggers my well-worn trauma response. The record drought has not helped. But I am grateful to finally have some peace and quiet. Continue Reading…

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As you are aware the end of the year and the holiday season may be a difficult time for The Nation of Cancer. It is a time of reflection; a time to look at where one is in their life. It is also a time that may exacerbate the loss felt if a loved one has died or is very sick. It can also be a time of sadness if you, yourself are dealing with your own illness. I know that there have been many years this has been true in my life and this year has been no exception.

As I have been writing out holiday cards, I have been struck by how difficult this year has been but also struck by the gratitude I feel for what I do have. For one thing, I feel very grateful that I was able to accompany Jean Shinoda Bolen on a trip to Ireland a few years ago. I am also grateful that she graciously endorsed my book.

I have read most of her books and have always learned so much from her. Her latest book: Artemis: The Indomitable Spirit in Everywomen is a prime example of her writing, another wonderful book full of stories of mythology and how they still apply to each of us. This book has helped in better understanding my nature, further identifying mythological archetypes and contributed to continuing my journey of knowledge of who I am and what I can be.

I am including an e-mail that I received from her that I think is something to ponder as we continue on our path of healing. As suggested, I am passing along the gift of Jean Shinoda Bolen.

December 11, 2014

“Still Here” is a short essay that I read in one of my workshops at Esalen and said that I would send it to them. Intuition after hearing from others about people they have lost:  send it out to all. Continue Reading…

IMG_1185As you may or may not be aware, I have not been ‘out’ much lately. I am trying to come to grips with the latest cancer ordeal in our family. I’ve been digging in the dirt, watching mindless television, reading and shockingly – cleaning my house.

I have been saying that I am grieving. Grieving what? Am I grieving a dream, a vision of the future, an expectation? I realized that I’m not really grieving although it can feel pretty bad. Continue Reading…

 

 

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A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to be interviewed at a recording studio by a wonderful talk show host, Jim Foster. He has been the host of a weekly radio author interview program called “Conversations on the Coast” for many years. The studio was in the main office of Clear Channel Communications and iHeart Radio. My friend drove me to San Francisco for the appointed time since I was still on crutches and in a leg stabilizer, not yet able to walk.

Jim Foster was a very gracious gentleman and, it seemed, had read the whole book. In the interview he focused on my ability to overcome adversity and my resilience. I honestly felt a sense of pride at my accomplishment in living the life of ‘A Kick-Ass Fairy’. But after I left I felt a bit uneasy and didn’t know why. Continue Reading…

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Books in the ‘young adult’ genre are very hot right now. Who hasn’t heard of The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins? In this science-fiction series, set in a dystopian, post-apocalyptic world, the teenage heroine, selected by lottery, must compete for her life against the other young contestants–to the death. In addition to fighting for her life through the trilogy, she must overcome the obstacle of saving the lives of her romantic loves.

In the Twilight series, the vampire-themed fantasy-romance books by Stephanie Meyers, the teenage heroine falls in love with an adolescent looking 104 year-old ‘good’ vampire. Throughout the series, her life is imperiled by vicious vampires, and shape-shifting wolves. She battles depression as her life force ebbs and flows.

Both series are bestsellers that depict teenage life and the (fantasized or science fictionalized) specter of death. They speak the universal language of adolescence: longing for connection, choice of partner, fear of commitment, forbidden passion – a formula for success.

We have upped the ante in the young adult genre to enter the real world specter of death, Cancer. Continue Reading…

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This past week I was the ‘featured’ guest of Cancer Nation Radio, a weekly talk radio program whose goal is to provide a forum for those who lives are touched by cancer. They broadcast locally in Las Vegas at 1230AM and live to the world over the Internet. (See: http://www.klav1230am.com/Shows/Cancer-Nation-Radio.html). (Please ‘Like’ them on Facebook and tell your friends!)  Continue Reading…

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As communication has evolved to include blogs, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram, we now have this new term called ‘selfies’. A selfie is defined as someone who takes and posts pictures of oneself on the Internet. But the term or label has now somehow expanded to those who share anything personal.

Humans, being social creatures, have a need to connect, even when society in the larger context doesn’t want to. Unfortunately, once again, I am appalled by the non-supportive view of cancer in the press. On Sunday 1/12/2014, The New York Times – The Opinion Pages, posted a piece by Op-Ed Columnist Bill Keller (former executive-editor) entitled ‘Heroic Measures’. Continue Reading…